Bleeding heart, i need advise?

i broke up with my ex a month and a half ago. everything was goin great between us up until our first ann. (dating) the reason why we broke up was b/c he thought that we have nothing in common. i really dont get why he was thinking this way since i've made a lot of changes to fit him. i started to listen to his type of music, he got me into the stuff he likes and i was speaking like him too. he'd also ditched me 3 times in a row so he could spend more time on his own car. the 3rd time we got into a fight and decided that we're just not meant to be.


well anyways, my questions for you all are..


... i dont get it, i've made so many changes for him and why isn't he willing to do the same for me?


... i know i should be over with him, but i just cant stop thinking about him, what should i do??





i need serious help to heal this bleeding heart

Bleeding heart, i need advise?
This is what got you in trouble: he'd also ditched me 3 times in a row so he could spend more time on his own car.





You gave yourself no value. You allow him to underestimate you for his car!





i started to listen to his type of music, he got me into the stuff he likes and i was speaking like him too", You gave up your true self to become like him, it shows you are weak on whom you are and you are desperate.





If you really want to know why he left you, you must realize first that you were not true to yourself, you gave no value to yourself therefore he has no value or love for you. And lets assume you gave him your body, see if next time you want to do things the right way.





It is a hard lesson but no one will tell you what I told you. If you want to hear "he doesn't deserve you" it is because you are not read to grow up.
Reply:I'm sorry to hear about this. I've been with someone over a year, and it was painful at first. You should spend more time with yourself, friends, family, and hobbies. You should stay single instead of going to men to men. You'll become a stronger person and have a sharper sense of yourself and the next guy you'll chose.
Reply:First of all, he sounds like a jerk. Second of all, you shouldn't change yourself for a guy... what happens when you meet somebody else? Are you going to change your interests for him too?





If the relationship is going to work, you're going to have to retain your own identity and not try to change yourself!





Try to find somebody else who won't ditch you.
Reply:O.K. rule number 1 - never change yourself to make a man happy. A man has to accept you the way you are. You were just too immature this time around - next time you will be confident and sure of yourself - chalk it down to experience.
Reply:I'm sorry to hear you're hurting so much:( anyway...true love should be unconditional: so none of the two should try to change the other one, if u really love someone , you just take them as they are...given what u have just explained, I think he's probably right: you're too different from each other, and no matter how you'll try to change, you'll always be too different from him...so you were probably not meant to be...





Just remember one thing: if you love someone set them free, if they'll come back to you, it means they were always yours, if they won't come back to you, it means they never were/would ,have been...Time will tell;
Reply:You should never change yourself to accomodate someone else. And seeing as though you already did make those sacrifices obviously its going to hurt a little more knowing that he wouldnt do the same for you, but thats when you realize that you deserve better. You need someone that you can be yourself with and he'll love everything about you. Wouldnt you be so much happier if things were that way? I think so..


Don't dwell on the situation or waste energy trying to complete unfinished business. It's time to let go of your past if it isn't serving you well..