Its Bleeding in my heart.. I need help..?

Am 27. Our relationship been fr 2yrs filled with love,romance and sincerity. I spend mostly of my time with her than my family nor frens and always be next to here whenever she feel down. I love her more than she'll ever know..but suddenly i findout that my love to her been betrayed. She seeing other man behind my back..holding hands n kiss around. She said.."Its unfair fr him if I hurt him.." 17July was my B'day and all I do is celebrate by myself in the park with a small cake n few cans of beer..filled with pain n tears. I ask her to celebrate wth me for 1 last time but she havin dinner with that man. On her B'day last year..on my way back drive home from flight as am werking as a flight steward, she call me around 11.40pm..hinting me that 20mins to her B'day. But It in end..i surprised her by standing at her door 12.05am and be the first person to wish her get her a roses with my sincerity. Afterall...This how it ends..A part of me died when I let her go...

Its Bleeding in my heart.. I need help..?
Dear bleeding she's no longer into u.She has never loved u like u love her.You did all the giving, and demanded nothing back.Do all u can to get over her ,and DO NOT compare new ones to her.When you find real love, you'll be amazed at how u feel.U won't long for affection it will be poured on u willingly.Send her away and demand all your gifts back she took them under false pretences.She deserves no consideration.
Reply:You sound really genuine and you're right, your sincerity has been betrayed. She obviously didn't fully appreciate what she had with you. You sound like you deserve much more than her.
Reply:I can feel the pain you are experiencing from your writing. I am so sorry. It will take time, but I know you can get over this. You are a kind and decent person who deserves better treatment.
Reply:What is your question?





If it is do ou keep trying to get her back.....I would say hell no! What she has done in the past i.e cheat on you is a great idea of how she will be in the future.......
Reply:This is not what you want to hear but it is better now than after a marriage. Also, be glad there is no children involved. So sorry. You deserve better. Time is the best healer. Sending a big hug your way. (Huuuuuuggggg) Good luck
Reply:Hey.





I have been in a similar situation, and I know how it feels.


There are a couple of things you can do;





1. Be real - you are hurt, and its okay to show it. If you need to cry, then do so, you don`t need to pretend that you are happy, if you are not. That is just lieing to yourself. Everyone goes through bad times, and you don`t have to put on a brave face.


2. Exercise no contact. Don`t beg her, don`t talk to her friends about what she means to you and so on. Nothing. Don`t speak badly of her behind her back. I know its hard to believe, to what she did, but thats the way it is. Do not talk to her, meet her, or her friends, or anything that reminds you of her. Avoid her and anything to do with her completely. You are now alone - its now about you, and your survival.


3. Abandon hope. This refers to point 2. Talking to her will give you false hope that things could get better. Its like picking at a sore, just makes it worse.


4. Take your time. It may take a while, I mean a real while to heal.





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