Her heart says me but her b/f is her safety net. from the following do you think she picked me or him?

the fact that she offered to tell me in an e-mail, although i asked her to do it in person, is that a good thing? or the easy way out? also, the fact that she went on and on about how hard it was, is that a bad thing? what do you think?


here is what she wrote:


"I am back. How was your last few days? Anyways, you will be happy to know that I have finally made a decision. I apologize that it has taken so long, but I really do appreciate your patience. I never meant to hurt anyone and it was the hardest decision that I have ever made in my life. I never thought that I could feel so strongly for two different people before. And I just want to do what is right. My heart bleeds either way.


I feel crushed no matter what. So, I was wondering, do you just want me to tell you what it is. Or in person, I know that you said in person before. AHHHH, I have a few things that I have to go do, or else I would keep on typing, I will send you another email later today. Bye for now."

Her heart says me but her b/f is her safety net. from the following do you think she picked me or him?
why does that even matter, why would you wanna be w/a chick that is leaving her b/f to be w/you, what makes you think another guy isn't gonna come around later and then she will leave you for him, what goes around comes around....you shouldn't be wreckin homes man thats not cool...
Reply:It is obvious that she is hanging... and time that you move on .
Reply:ask miss cleo. with women thought always plan for the worst. i think if you were it she would have just told you. and she wouldnt ignore you. in fact she probably spent the time away with him, ever think of that? anyways sounds like you need a good girl so if it doesnt work out with her DONT worry. youll be fine and with a new chick in no time.
Reply:I don't think playing guessing games does anyone good. It sounds like she really cares about you and loves you no matter what her "decision" is. If you do, you could get yourself worked up over nothing.





If you think you can handle seeing her in person, go for it. If she tells you something you don't want to hear, respect her for it, no matter how much it might hurt. Doing that kind of thing is never easy. She sounds like a sweetheart who would probably be devastated to know she hurt anyone - you or him. She sounds like she really does want to do the right thing.





I would believe in the best in her. So many of us have been burned, but she sounds like someone who doesn't want to do that to anyone. And hold your head high, no matter the outcome.
Reply:neither
Reply:yoo
Reply:she wants her cake and eat it too
Reply:i went thru this with my boyfriend and his best friend, aka the ex. she's getting married and she used him for emotional relationship while staying with her fiancee to have the safety net whom her family LOVED. we even broke up for a week so he could figure out what the deal was. a week later, he comes back and tells me he cut off the friendship bc he was allowing her to use him and for him to get involved emotionally with someone other than me his gf was wrong. we have never been happier...point is. leave her alone, she has to make that decision....and btw, why would u want to be the sideline guy. move on.
Reply:I can't tell. At first I thought the other guy, but telling you that in person is by no means easier that in an email.





a word of advice though -- if she keeps this crap up for much longer you should BOTH dump her!
Reply:Give her some space she sounds like she is really confused right now.It sort of sounds like she did make her decision to be with her ex.But,she does not sound so sure as if she did the right thing.She is trying not to let her guard down and get her feelings hurt.She may be using ex for a security blanket until she feels comfortable with you.If she is really what you want and you are not going to treat her like crap then you need to let her know how you feel and reassure her that her best interest is the only thing that matters to you at this point and time.
Reply:She picked her boyfriend. For one thing, she told you this in email, trying to build up to letting you down. Secondly if she picked you then she wouldn't go on and on about what a hard decision it was.