My heart is bleeding. I don't know if can recover!?

Me and my boyfriend broke up. He did some horrible things to me like grabbing me by the throat, verbal abuse, putting something in my drink, just horrible mental abuse. I lost all my friends and most of my family. I have no one left. Now, he's done w/ me. I can't prove to him how much I love him. It's not enough that I've given up everything and jumped through hoops... he still doesn't think I love him like I should. I think maybe there's someone else. I don't know what to do. Do I leave him alone? Am I better off? What will I do when I find out there's someone else? How can he not love me? I've given him my life! I used to be beautiful. Now I'm 128 lbs. My hair is falling out. I'm tired, exhausted and not fun anymore. He tore me down and now there's nothing in it for him. What do I do?

My heart is bleeding. I don't know if can recover!?
Listen to your therapist and ditch this guy.
Reply:no body deserves being treated like dirt. please dont stay with the guy, you probably do love him but what is he going to do next time. i was in a bad relationship for a long time then i finally got sick of it and left. now i am with a guy that is so good to me i couldnt be happier. good luck and say goodbye to the bad relationship.
Reply:Start By leaving Him because he left you along time ago!


Stand up and take responsibility of yourself!


He did nothing to you that you ultimately thought you wanted for your life.


He was never the guy you thought he was and maybe you are not the girl you thought you were.


Your family and your true friends will forgive you, if you ask them and are contrite about it.


Good Luck!
Reply:NEVER TALK TO HIM AGAIN O_O





Go back to your family and talk to them about what happened. See a psychiatrist, definately.





I wouldn't start seeing anyone else until you've recovered from this.
Reply:Sweetie, you need to realize that he has done nothing but hurtful things to you. He doesn't care about you or he wouldn't have put you through this. Just get yourself back together and become the beautiful person you once were. You can find a rebound guy, though don't make it anything permanent, because that is what rebounding is. Eventually, the right guy will find you, and he won't be someone who is abusive. That is one thing you should get counseling about....how to not choose the same types of men as the first one. I'm not sure why you can't get over him, but you should have gotten over him after the first time he put his hands on you in an abusive manner. Good luck sweetie, and get out of that situation. Your family and friends still love and care about you, they just don't know where you've been.
Reply:control your mind and feelings and get back your life piecefully. don,t think previous life and go for a fresh sunlight. go ahead with a fine controled life and not allow to cheat you ever
Reply:sweetie your better off no one deserves a guy like that not ever if you are no angel like you said. you still love him i understand that but if you should have ended the relationship when he started abusing you. It took me a long time to realize that but when i got the crap beat out of me to the point when the cops came they were surprised that i was alive thats when you realize that love is not suppose to be like that. Your family will understand if you go back to them and tell them what happened. You will find someone else that will love you like you should be loved in the way that you need to be loved and you will enjoy it and be happy and fun again dont let him get the best of you
Reply:I know a cardiologist who could help.
Reply:Honey, you have to lose everything sometimes to find yourself. I wish it were not that way but I had been torn down to my core by my marriage to an addict. I still love him, I will always love him. I will always hope for the best for him. That is where abuse gets mishandled and misunderstood, you should see the confusion in peoples faces when I tell them that I still love my ex husband. You can love someone forever, but know that they are not right or healthy for you. You have to love yourself, your obligations in life. I finally had left him because he turned on our child that was NOT in my wedding vows, that I would sacrifice a few kids lives for the cause. So it was what Yahoo likes to call a deal breaker!!! You do what you can, and when you have had enough you stand up and pummel him to the ground and leave, (not actual, but mentally I am gathering you actually are stronger, smarter and more capable than him which is usually the case) You sound like you are also telling yourself that you need to do something, that you are ready to make changes or you wouldnt be bringing this issue to full awareness like you are right now. You are becoming aware and once aware you must change. Take Care hun, you will be allright when you take control of your life back. Your sweet self is still in there. -Rachel.
Reply:get over him get a therapist and restart your life
Reply:yes leave him alone you are better of don't you see he treats you like dirt dumb him and find anther better than him
Reply:oh hunny. you are still beautiful you just need to feel it. and you dont need him in your life at all, hes a piece of S*** and you deserve much better. there are men out there who know how to treat women
Reply:Ultimately, this is not a question of what he's done to you, it's a matter of what you allowed him to get away with and, who you've allowed yourself to become. We often look toward others to cast the blame upon regarding issues that we know in our heart of hearts, WE are responsible for. Through the embarrassment we suffer of having others witness, first hand, our own vulnerabilities and lack of internal means to deal with them we choose to go on, pretending that there is nothing wrong until it's way too late.





The first step to your recovery is realizing you've made a serious mis-judgment in yourself. Secondly, never see this guy again. Thirdly, spend some quality time re-kindling your lost friendships. If they were ever truly your friends, they will only too happy to let you back in and, help you back on the road to a personal recovery. Fourthly, DO NOT get into another relationship of any intimate nature with any men for at least 6 months, a year preferably. You need this time to re-gain self control and your own identity. Lastly, and most importantly, recognize the errors you made, forgive yourself, and use these experiences to ensure that they NEVER happen again.





Best of luck!
Reply:Have you ever heard the term "Tabula Rasa"? Many Americans use the similar term "Clean Slate." This is an excellent opportunity for you.





You say you lost everything. That could be a blessing in disguise. The next thing you should do is to identify all of the things in your life you want to change. Your health. Your relationships. Your goals and career. Examine all of them and think of what needs to be changed.





I won't tell you any of that "you're a beautiful person" junk or feed you a line of "you're better off without him." By your own admission you made a lot of mistakes, too. But this is your chance...maybe your only chance to fix them.





Once you know what you insist upon in your life, then you have the ability to begin writing yourself a new life on your Tabula Rasa. Decide what you are looking for in a mate. A job. A place to live. What kind of friends you want. The sort of health that is best for you. Your fashion. Your hobbies and recreation. All of it. Don't let other people define it for you. It's your Tabula Rasa. You define it for yourself.





Next, you don't lower your standards. You don't accept substitutions. You live brave and proud and strong. THAT is how you become beautiful again. That is how you become everything that you ever wanted.





The Tabula Rasa is a powerful tool and a beautiful thing. Do not deny yourself this chance.
Reply:Holy hell, next time he touches you. get him arrested. Find a new therapist and start a new life. Go to church, DO something, your headed down the wrong path, for someone like me to read this is shocking you want to be with someone that abuses you, its mind boggling.