How can I break up with a bleeding heart without getting messy?

I've known my girlfriend for nearly 2 years, as freinds,before we started about 1 1/2 months ago. she's basically too emotional for someone like myself. (Self-concsious, doubtful, emotionally demanding, etc...) she get's upset way too easily and doesn't believe people when they try to tell her positive things about herself. I want to end it before things go any further than they are now, but i don't want to crush her.





I really only started dating her because she would constantly drop hints that she wanted to( we've been through this before), but i didn't want hurt her emotionaly, or at least any more hurt than she already is.





How should i go about this?

How can I break up with a bleeding heart without getting messy?
you cant.
Reply:So because she dropped hints you decided to get into a relationship with her and now want OUT!!





You should never of got involved with her and there is no way that you can break up with her, without her being totally EMOTIONALLY UPSET
Reply:Well theres really no easy way. If I was in your situation, I would have a long talk and explain that you guys just arent right for each other. Maybe you could offer to be just friends, but I have a feeling should would always want more. She seems really insecure, thats a hard one. Try to make her understand that its not her fault, its just that she just not your type. But no matter what you say, shes still gonna get hurt, but like you said, better to do it now then later. And yeah, dude, why did you go out even tho u didnt like her?
Reply:There is no easy way. If there were, there would be a lot fewer songs out there, and probably no country music! The problem is that you got into this for all of the wrong reasons. I get the impression that you feel guilty about that, and now you are afraid to hurt her even more. Is this chick fairly stable? Or are you worried she might do something stupid like slit her wrists? If she has said anything like that, then please, talk with your parents or her best friend, anyone who needs to be able to keep an eye out for her well being after all is said and done. Remember, if she does something drastic, it isn't your fault. But once you break up with her, you need to step away and let others handle her. Don't allow your emotions to get caught up in her drama, or she will learn that all she has to do is cut herself to keep you.





That being said, the best thing to do is to sit with her face to face and tell her you are breaking up with her. You may find yourself answering a lot of questions. Be prepared. The words "I don't know," won't work. Be direct and be honsest. Keep it short and sweet. Once your done, block her calls, delete her from your freinds list, your calling list, your cell phone, all of that. DO NOT GO BACK. Unless things have changed, they will be the same, and you will be right back where your started.





Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for someone is let them go. But slam the door and lock it tight. If she senses there's even an inkling of a chance that you may get back together, she'll never let go.





Good luck!